As you're reading this now I can almost guarantee that even if you yourself personally haven't been through the heart ache that is miscarriage or baby loss, someone you know has. It could be your mum, sister, aunt, cousin or maybe a friend. Miscarriage and baby loss is more common than most people think, it affects 1 in 4 pregnancies and is not a dirty little secret. I'm a firm believer in normalising miscarriage and baby loss and talking about it more.
Many people think it's something to 'get over' some thing that you need to recover from and move on from, but in my experience and the experience of many people I have met on my journey, it isn't something that you can get over. Its a life changing event, some thing that becomes part of who you are.
At the time of a miscarriage or baby loss it's so easy to feel alone but today (15th October) is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Tonight at 7pm (local time) there will be an international 'Wave of Light' to remember all the pregnancies that have ended or babies that have gone too soon. Everyone who has been affected by the loss of a pregnancy or baby is invited to light a candle and let it burn for an hour to remember all the babies that have died during pregnancy or childbirth.
Please join in and help other women to know that today they are not alone. Today there is an army of people out there ready to support them, to hear them and to make their babies seem as important as anyone else's.